Planet of Love and Rules

I grew up on a planet of love and rules. A world with lots of play, love, people.  A planet that also came with tight guidelines and beliefs I never questioned, and was encouraged not to question. I was somewhat of a quiet kid, a watcher, a listener. I was always curious as to why people did the things they did.  I wondered: “What motivated people? Why were some people happy and others were not?”

In my family, it was not encouraged to “colour outside the lines”.  I learned about love.  But I also learned about criticism, and the way to avoid it was to stay inside the box and follow the chosen path.  That worked when I was a kid; as I learned what was right and wrong, it felt safe and secure within the structure of those rules.

As an adult I tried to keep to that narrow path.  I met the right person within the guidelines I was taught, and I married for love.  After 6 years, my marriage ended, and my quest to find out who I was outside of these parameters began. It felt like I was embarking on a journey to a different planet with a new language, foreign beliefs, and way outside the comfortable yet confining box.  I felt an expansion I never knew was possible!

At the same time, I felt lost, terrified, excited, alone and sad. Change does not come without some ‘letting go’ and grieving the losses. Like cleaning the closet, I had to sort through what was serving me, what felt good on my skin, and what to let go of and what to keep.   It was sometimes a painful process and very liberating.  It was my curiosity and a desire for more, a deep knowing that there had to be more – not only inside me but on this new planet that I connected with, that could ignite my passions….once I found out what they were that is….

I learned ‘living in love’ instead of ‘living in fear’ is a choice, and with that choice comes unlimited possibilities. I discovered joy is available for everyone! Relationships are supposed to be supportive, fun, loving, kind, and expansive.  I realized that I wanted to teach people how to have that!

I found my passion for helping people find themselves, unearth their own passions, claim their lost spirit, feel their hearts, fall in love with themselves and those around them. What inspires me is to help others feel connected to the world, their bodies, and their lives.  My goal is to assist others find their own planet: one that works for them.  It makes me very happy to support others in presenting their unique selves to the world.

There is only one thing required, that is desire.